I hate to say it, but I've grown to be ashamed of who I am. I'm not talking about the things that I necessarily should be ashamed of either. I'm ashamed of my diet and lifestyle. I am *deep breath* a vegan. I feel like in a lot of people's eyes this has become a dirty word. Similar to the negative connotations that come with being "feminist." I know there are plenty of liberal minded people out there who think being vegan or feminist is great and something to be proud of, but for me being vegan has become something I am ashamed of.
I don't like how other vegans act. I don't like being associated as "one of those vegans." I look back on my "How Not to Treat a Vegan" prose, and am reminded of how much I've changed. I no longer am bothered by that kind of stuff. People are going to live their lives in the ways they choose. If someone is respectful of my values, I will be respectful of theirs. If not, I'll just go about my business, silently disagreeing with them. Just because I feel my way of life is better for me doesn't mean it's better for anyone else. Even if I feel my lifestyle is healthier and better for sustainability, that's a choice I've made for myself, and if someone else wants to make a different choice, they are entitled to do so.
It comes down to mutual respect. I don't think everyone should be vegan, but I do think everyone should be tolerant and respectful of differing values and opinions. I also think everyone should be informed. I can't tell you how many stupid arguments I've had with non-vegans. "Do you know how much land gets destroyed to grow your soybeans?" "Do you know 10 times as much land is destroyed to feed your hamburgers? Oh you thought cows photosynthesized?"
"I don't get why you wont drink milk." "Because I don't like how dairy cows are treated, and I think it's gross. I think it's gross to drink fluid that comes out of another animal's nipples. It's just not my cup of tea, per se." My cup of tea is black with a drop of soy milk in it.
It's gotten to the point where I don't even tell people I'm vegan anymore. Because they associate me with things that I don't associate with. Things like PETA, ALF, militancy in general, tree-hugging, not shaving, and being a sissy. I guess I'm just tired of arguing. It feels kind of shitty to concede like this, but I'd rather not have to defend my beliefs every time I meet a new person. So I'm "vegetarian" by reputation, vegan by practice. I'm just sick of arguing with people who are uninformed. And not being able to argue with people who choose to live in willful ignorance.
I like the meat eaters who say "Meat is Murder... Tasty, Tasty Murder!" Because they are acknowledging they are eating an animal. It's the people who say "No I can't watch slaughterhouse videos because then I won't be able to eat meat anymore!" that I want to strangle with the entrails of a soy protein cow. I just can't fathom choosing to be uninformed in order to be absolved of responsibility and morality. I guess I still have some hangups and judgments in this area, but I've gotten a lot better.
Maybe I have a responsibility to myself and to other vegans to be proud of who I am. By not being one of "those vegans" I can show people that there are vegans who are not pretentious assholes who think they are better than everyone else and judge your eating and lifestyle habits. It's definitely something I'll need to work on. But now I'm gonna let my vegan spaghetti with rawmegian cheese digest